Upon completion of the test, students who had chosen the hardest fifty-point questions were given As. The students who had chosen the forty-point questions received Bs. Those who settled for the easiest thirty-pointers were given Cs.
The students were frustrated with the grading of their papers and asked the professor what he was looking for. The professor leaned over the podium, smiled, and explained, “I wasn’t testing your book knowledge. I was testing your aim.”
An anonymous writer once commented, “Make no small plans for they have no power to stir your soul.” Robert Kriegel put it this way, “The key is to have a dream that inspires us to go beyond our limits.” Not only are people short on dreams but even those with dreams often set their sights low enough to protect themselves from failure.
To stay on your course for continuous self-improvement and the benefits that will be attracted to you and your business—AIM HIGH!
One Down, Three to Go!
The first quarter of 2018 is gone.
In today’s world, danger awaits those who wait for the once-a-year performance review.
Before the second quarter gets too far away from you, I strongly recommend that you evaluate your current performance and associated results.
Right now, yes, right this second: ask yourself these very important questions to set up your personal development goals:
1. Concerning my year to date performance, how am I doing?
2. If I continue along with my current strategies and performance, how will I be doing at the end of the second quarter?
3. What am I going to do starting today to get myself back on target?
4. What new strategies and habits must I implement in order to improve my performance?
The reality is that at this very moment, you are in one of these three positions – above, on or below target.
It is time to inspect your expectations and fulfill your personal development goals before too much time and distance gets away.
Consider the exercise you go through today as an insurance policy on success.
Change is inevitable-growth is optional. Change knocks the wind out of all good plans and unless performance is reviewed regularly, growth becomes stunted.
You must remember that we get what we inspect, not just what we expect. Focused attention ALWAYS increases productivity!
Let others think small, but not you!
Let others not act, but not you!
Let others be petty, but not you!
Let others talk badly, but not you!
Let others achieve little, but not you!
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Self-improvement does not happen by itself. All of us can improve some without a focus. We have to do that to live, let alone to survive. Yet, to live a happier, more fulfilling and peaceful life it is important to understand the definitions of key words that are central to the overall theme of self-improvement business coaching. In a way, these words provide some key tips on self-improvement.
Personal Foundation: This is a structural basis to support an individual in living an exceptional life. The personal foundation is comprised of three elements: the Who, the What, and the How. Your personal foundation will determine where and how far you can go in your self-improvement. The good news is that your personal foundation can be made stronger.
Personal Growth/Development: Personal growth and development is the overall process of evolving to fully express your purpose and values.
Self: Our “self” is who we are versus the terms we use to label ourselves. It is our distinct personality that creates our individuality. We draw upon this self as we are called upon to respond to the world.
Integrity: Integrity is a state of personal wholeness, well-being, and fulfillment—not something to achieve, but rather a statement of our being. It is a reflection of who you are in any moment and is the dynamic relationship you maintain between purpose and path. It is vigilant development, or continual adjustment, of the fit between our calling and our conduct that allows us to sustain a high level of integrity. Integrity, in my opinion, is one the key words in guiding us to a better life.
Values: Values are ideals that are personally important and meaningful for you and draw you forward. Values are inherent in each person’s makeup; we all have them. They are specific and individual, but people can share common values. For example, people often value honesty, openness, and respect in a conversation.
It is important to know your values. It is critical to know the values of those you associate with. As a personal development business coach or when I am doing personal business coaching I strongly encourage my clients to know the values of those they associate with.
An example that comes to mind was a discussion I was in where the person was having a lot of relational disruption with a group of people who were, in his opinion, important to his business. I asked him to articulate the values of the individuals in this group of people. At first, he resisted. He said, “They have good values.” Yet as he explored it and spoke about the people it became obvious they all had the same values, but they were not his. Interestingly, they were thieves of other people’s time and money.
The conclusion was that someone can tell you they have good values. Yet, without a frame of reference we cannot know if they are good or not. A group of thieves all have the same values. And they think those are good values. Always know the values of others. What tips on self-improvement can we take away from this story?
Know your values. Know the values of others. When you do, you are less likely to put yourself in situations where you are compromising your values and your principles. When you do compromise in those areas it diminishes your authenticity and your trust which leads us down a path to poorer relationships and more problems.
In self-improvement coaching, I always ask my clients to identify their values. When you know your values, your self-improvement can rise to a higher level because you will make better decisions that will honor you and your gifts and talents.
In the next post we will continue with some more definitions to bring more clarity to your self-improvement.
So, you are ready in all these areas. You have started to look for a personal business coach. How do you find a good self-improvement coaching? Quite simply, find someone who understands that they are not the best coach for everyone. This is critical. Let me state that as for myself, I am definitely not the coach for everyone. A good personal development business coach understands the value he can bring when he collaborates with others. And he is specific, not general in his approach.
For example, in my practice, I collaborate with only those people who are already successful in my facets of business and life, or who have been successful and are on their way back. I have found that I work best with those types of clients. I am better with those that have a sense of themselves, their strengths and their vulnerabilities. Find a coach who can specifically identify where they work best. There is no right or wrong here. There truly is a coach for everyone.
The challenge for you as a prospective client is to discover the best fit for you. As your coach I should be providing you in each session tips on self-improvement. For every ten people I interview for coaching I work with two or three. I have a process that takes about four hours and about a week. Both the prospective client and myself are determining together with guidelines and a process if we have the potential to be a good match.
During the qualifying process, the client or myself is free at any time to say, “I don’t think this is going to work.” Very often, either the prospective client or myself will come to the realization that yes, coaching is needed, but that we aren’t a fit. One way I go about doing that is offering my prospective client some tips on self-improvement. If the prospect is excited about them and wants to take action, I know that the odds are more favorable for a good coaching relationship.
After all, when you seek self-improvement coaching, the personal relationship with your coach will determine not only determine your level of enthusiasm but what you are willing to undertake in order to accomplish your goals. If you see the benefits from the tips on self-improvement, but can’t see the relationship as a client, then it is time to step away before you get started.
Let’s say you have found your personal development business coach. Now what? You will start to develop a vision of the future and what you wish to accomplish.
- You will determine your strengths because those are the areas where you can more quickly see personal growth and development in your business and your life.
- You will discover how to strengthen your personal foundation. When you do, you can accomplish much more.
- You will begin to understand the path or pathways that are most conducive to developing your personal foundation and subsequently yourself to take you on the path to accomplishing your vision.
These are three benefits you will see in self-improvement coaching and working with a personal development business coach. There are many more. The key is to start in these areas. Do well in these areas. When you do, you will increase the odds of your self-improvement taking you on a path to make your vision of the future a reality.
Over many years of coaching I have observed that those who do well with my style of personal development business coaching, have a good personal foundation. They have many things working for them. They are now at a point where they want to take it to their business and life to the next level.
What is the next level, you ask? It is a good question. There are hundreds of paths to self-improvement and they all lead to the same place. So, it really doesn’t matter which path you take. What matters is that you take a path and commit to it. That’s where I come in to support others in going on their chosen pathway.
I am not here to fix anyone. I am not here to help anyone. Yet, I am here to give others my unconditional support. A fix it mentality in coaching or the “I am here to help” offering, for me, is starting from a negative. The implication is that something is wrong. The truth is there is something wrong, or that can be improved in all of us. That includes myself.
To me, the best path for self-improvement business coaching has four key elements.
- Unconditional support
- Accountability for the things the client wants to be held accountable for
- Collaboration: This is not about me and you. It is about us.
- Co-creation of pathways to accelerate the process of the client’s successful
Now that I have listed the components for successful self-improvement business coaching I want to get back to the original question, “What is the next level?”
The next level for virtually everyone is greater peace of mind and happiness. You may say, and rightly so, this doesn’t make sense. Don’t most people want more success in their businesses and lives financially? Yes, in a sense. No one has ever hired me and said, “I want to earn less money and have a diminished lifestyle? All of them would like to earn more, sometimes it is very little, sometimes it is a great deal more. Yet, the one thing they almost always agree on is that they want a better lifestyle.
And a better lifestyle, which comprises your business and personal life comes from understanding who you are and what can bring you greater peace and happiness. Very often, when we focus on what the ultimate goal is, greater peace and happiness, we end up doing things that improve our lives and lifestyle significantly in other areas.
Ultimately, if you are looking for a better lifestyle and identifying steps to accelerate the process of your successful performance, you are a good candidate for collaborating with a personal business coach.