Holding on to what you cannot change is like wrestling with your shadow. It makes for a frustrating relationship with yourself. The shadow is visible, but you will be continually frustrated and unhappy because you cannot control or change it.
In your business and personal world, you must know when you are wrestling with your shadow. Your shadow is all the things you cannot control.
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” — Maxwell Malt
Do people possessing high self-esteem achieve greater success in life?
You may have heard from many people that they want to increase their self esteem. They believe that once their confidence and self esteem is high, they’ll be able to achieve more and greater successes.
Networking is something all of us do in one way or another. It could be with business associates, the checker at the grocery store and the list goes on and on. When collaborating with small businesses as a business coach in The Woodlands one of the things that is brought up is networking.
Specifically, the owner wants to know if he or she needs to do it. And, if it is needed, how to be most effective in going about it. Yet, before we get into whether or not to network, let’s take a look in this post as to the origins of the word networking. Read more
Any person who is interested in self-improvement welcomes hearing any self-improvement tips for success. When I hear a tip I may say, “Wow, that is great! I can apply that immediately.” Or, “That’s good but it really doesn’t resonate with me.” Whatever resonates with you at the time are self-improvement tips for success that reflect where you are mentally and emotionally at that particular moment.
What are some truths when it comes to self-improvement tips for success?
When I think of self-improvement tips for success, these are ones that immediately come to mind. There are hundreds of others. Find three or four that resonate with you. Incorporate them into your life.
And then start executing and implementing them in your thinking, attitude, and behavior. You will learn a great deal in the process and when you do you will be implementing my favorite of all the self-improvement tips for success.
Learning with an application is nothing. It is okay to learn for the sake of learning. But when you are learning for your own self-improvement you must apply it. Learning with an application is the miracle process that will take you from who you are today to who you can be and a whole new world tomorrow.
Self-improvement business coaching is a phrase that has universal application. Regardless of the type of business coaching, you are engaged in, the ultimate by-product of your coach’s work and your efforts are self-improvement in some manner or fashion.
But, to be more specific, and to give you some self-improvement tips for success, when it comes to business coaching, finding a business coach that has the capacity to blend business know-how with self-improvement can, in the right situation, open up possibilities for you that you never knew existed.
If you think about it, what you want in business and life will seldom exceed your self-improvement. Self-improvement business coaching has its foundation built on this concept. If you can improve yourself to become more, only then will you attract more and hold onto many of the good things business and life have to offer.
When looking for self-improvement companies in Houston, the area I live and work in, you will find many options. Many of them focus strictly on the individual. And, that is an excellent place to start. Some are focused more on the business side of things with the result being that you will experience self-improvement as your business grows. Others focus more on self-improvement business coaching. They look at what the individual has to become in order to achieve the desired results. In some shape or form, all of them offer the opportunity for self-improvement.
When interviewing potential coaches or self-improvement companies in Houston, look for those where you not only see the logic of what they want you to engage in but where you also feel in alignment with what is being proposed. There are many choices and options when it comes to self-improvement companies in Houston.
All of them offer self-improvement business coaching. Interview them. And as a general recommendation, there are definitely exceptions, don’t make an immediate decision. Ponder what you wish to accomplish in the short-term and over a longer period of time. When you do, you increase the odds of making a good decision for you, your business and your life.
When looking for self-improvement companies in Houston, the area I live and work in, you will find many options. Many of them focus strictly on the individual. And, that is an excellent place to start. Some are focused more on the business side of things with the result being that you will experience self-improvement as your business grows.
Others focus more on self-improvement business coaching. They look at what the individual has to become in order to achieve the desired results. In some shape or form, all of them offer the opportunity for self-improvement.
The first type of self-improvement company or coach I described will focus almost strictly on the individual. Very often you will find people who are life coaches. A life coach is someone who can support you in overcoming situations in your life that could definitely be impeding your progress in other areas.
When looking at self-improvement companies in Houston, the second type will initially focus on business challenges where you may feel stuck or overwhelmed or just need a trusted sounding board and migrate into the personal side.
There are many life coaches and self-improvement companies in Houston. The challenging part for the prospect is that there are so many different approaches that it can be a challenge to know what you may be receiving if you were to hire a life coach or a self-improvement company. That is why you must take the time and interview prospective coaches and self-improvement companies.
When interviewing potential coaches or self-improvement companies in Houston, look for those where you not only see the logic of what they want you to engage in but where you also feel in alignment with what is being proposed. There are many choices and options when it comes to self-improvement companies in Houston.
In the end, and this is important to remember, all business or life coaching or working with a self-improvement company is personal. Select the one you feel most comfortable with personally. That is a good place to start. You may change later on. That happens.
The important thing is that if you are considering self-improvement companies in Houston or life coaches is to get started on the process. One of the key things in self-improvement is to get started.
It is the start that stops most people in many things in business and life. Get started. That is the first step to your future success.
Today there are a multitude of options when it comes to business coaching in Houston. And, at the very least, that can bring confusion for those who are seeking out business coaching in Houston. The real problem, if you are looking for business coaching in Houston is: Who do I hire and partner with?
To find the best business coach ask yourself one question:
Mentally and emotionally you must be in the right mindset for coaching to work. Depending on who you hire and what you wish to accomplish plan to carve out anywhere from 2 to 8 hours a month. You will have to be committed to fitting coaching into your schedule. Also, you are very likely going to have assignments for which you will be held accountable.
So, once you are clear on the above you are ready to pursue finding a business coach. Fortunately, in Houston there are many options. How well you interview your prospects for a business coach and how well they interview you will determine whether or not you decide to collaborate together.
When it comes to business coaching in Houston you have two broad areas to choose from. You have the “program” business coaches who espouse and support programs with which they are affiliated. Some examples are the John Maxwell coaches, Action Coach, Growth Coach and Focal Point Coaching. They offer great value for those where it is the right fit.
The second area of business coaching in Houston are the independent business coaches. They may be able to more specifically cater to a particular area of need. For example, you may have an independent business coach that specializes in start-ups. Or another may have great marketing expertise. Once again, they offer great value if they are the right fit.
In my practice, as an independent business coach, I end up collaborating with 2 of every 10 people I interview. Everyone I interview is fascinating in their own way. Yet, even if there is an immediate connection, I am always looking strategically to see if there is a long-term fit. Why? I have discovered over the last 14 years that the best results for the client come over a period of time and not in one or two meetings.
I am not the business coach for everyone. As you interview business coaches and you get the feeling that they see themselves as the business coach for everyone I would definitely hit the pause button and ask more questions. Connection is important. Yet the ability to collaborate over a period of time will increase the odds of success.
As you look at business coaching in Houston, know that the right coach for you is out there. Interview your business coaching candidates. Reflect on what you hear, what you see and what you feel. When you do, you will more than likely make the right decision in hiring a business coach.
You will become what you think about most. This is a powerful statement when it comes to your personal development and growth. What you think about most becomes the foundation for building your confidence and self-esteem. And, what you think about most can help to improve your self-confidence or it can diminish it. So, what are you thinking about most?
As a business coach, who also plays the role of a personal development coach, it is not necessarily easy to answer the question, “What do you think about most?”
I find a way to get something complex and deep started is to simplify it. It is important to break it down into manageable pieces. Let’s take a look at what I like to call the 5 Areas of Life.
These are five areas that you can focus on to take your personal development and growth to the next level. Let them guide you to what you think about most. After all, you do become what you think about most.
“I must be the best me in order to be the best for everyone else.”-Steve Scott
I like this quotation, not because it is mine, but because it underscores a fundamental truth to self-improvement. When looking at self-improvement tips for success, which means building your confidence and self-esteem you have to start with yourself.
You have to be the best you in order to be the best for everyone else. If you are not the best you, or striving for it, what are you giving to others? You are giving them something average or below average. No one gets excited about the word “average.”
If people asked you the following questions with these answers ask yourself how motivated you would be to connect, partner or do anything with them.
I think you get the point. There is nothing exciting about “average.” There isn’t anything there that brings, energy, excitement, and most importantly, momentum to ignite the power of creativity, excitement and forward progress. Here is what is critical. There is nothing in “average” to attract people who are “above average” into your life.
Life is not a one-man band. It is about creating partnerships, sharing thinking and exploring new opportunities. That’s what can make it above average when people see you, not as average, but as someone unique and exceptional.
So, start with yourself and be committed, not involved, committed to being the best you. How do you do that? You must be selfish. You say, “Oh, people will think bad of me if I am selfish.” They may and if they do, when you are being selfish in the process of being the best you, then they do not need to be a major part of your life.
Selfishness is, first and foremost, about self-preservation. It’s meaning has been corrupted over time to mean something negative when someone wants something from you and when they don’t get it they tell you that you are selfish.
Sometimes, I am accused of being selfish. When I am, I thank the person who says that. “Thank you. Yes, I am into self-preservation.” Most people don’t get it let alone know how to handle it.
In my personal development coaching as a personal development coach I encourage all my clients to be selfish in order to be the best version of themselves. In turn, they will be the best for others. That is one of the most important self-improvement tips for success.
In the last post we looked at the terms symptoms, motivation and vision. When understood all three can provide the fuel for the engine of your self-improvement. In this post, we will look at tolerations, tolerations, strategy, strategize and attraction.These four terms will conclude our discussion on definitions that are central to the success of a personal business coach or a personal development coach and his or her client.
Tolerations:This, in my opinion, is a big one. All of us have things we tolerate. Over the years, in my life and the lives of others I have worked with I have seen the negative effect of tolerations.
To tolerate means to allow the existence of something, to permit or endure something, to put up with something. This implies that the something (or someone) is less than desirable, less than the ideal, and tends to drain a person’s energy. Let me add, that tolerations will also take you off course and can cause you to lose your focus.
A toleration is a situation, a condition, an influence of any kind that is allowed to exist, is put up with, that is less than ideal. A toleration is often a hindering influence.
Tolerations must be vigilantly managed. In fact, tolerations are like weeds. They must be yanked out at the roots. If you have a client with some serious tolerations it is going to be extremely challenging to find a good path to self-improvement.
Tolerations can sabotage the best of self-improvement business coaching. Wherever possible, get rid of your tolerations.
Strategy: A strategy is simply a plan or a method for achieving a specific goal. Referring back to the definition of vision which is about your goals for the future, a strategy creates a road to accomplish your goals.
A strategy can be anything from a way to accomplish a simple task to a way to live life more fully. Strategies generally have several ways they identify and track the goal-seeking process. A good strategy is one that makes use of all available resources.
As a personal business coach finding or discovering a workable strategy for your client is essential for his or her success. This leads us to the next term that I will define.
Strategizing: To develop a strategy, plan, or method for achieving goals. To be of value to your clients as a personal development business coach you must be strategizing with them. And once you have a strategy, continuously review it and alter it as progress is made and circumstances change.
Attraction: The last term we will define is attraction. Attraction is to be drawn to something. Or, I might add, to have something drawn to you. In coaching, attraction is the power and ability to draw people or circumstances to oneself. Being open to acting on one’s intuition allows a person to attract the right clients for the right fit. Likewise, if you are looking for a coach attraction, acting on your intuition will guide you to selecting a coach who is more in alignment with who you are and what you wish to accomplish.