Indifference: The First Enemy From Within

We are not born with courage. And, we are not born with fear. Both courage and fear are acquired through our business and life experiences. Collaborating with and supporting clients as a personal business coach in The Woodlands and as a personal business coach in Houston we encounter fears that are holding us back, yet we don’t recognize them.
One such fear is indifference. It is certainly okay to be indifferent at times. But, if indifference is dominating your reactions and thought processes it will lead you in a bad direction. Indifference is about a fear of setting priorities or knowing how to set priorities.
You can be indifferent because you don’t think something matters. For example, there is a small error in your business that keeps needing to be corrected. It does not get corrected. Ultimately, it will lead or impact you with a poor result. It is not a question of if, but when.
When you see an error, whether it be in your judgement, how you react or how you do things it does matter. Indifference over time will be deadly to your business growth and personal development. Indifference kills a sense of urgency to improve and will slow or stop your momentum.
Indifference is saying that you can ho-hum your way to success. Or, maybe you can drift your way to the top of the mountain. More often than not, success in business and life comes from purposeful action taken on a timely basis. When you are indifferent it is hard to be timely.
Timeliness is the enemy of indifference. There was a general who had many battlefield successes and also some defeats. He was asked about his military defeats which he did not want to talk about. Yet, his interviewer persisted.
Finally, he said that all military defeats can be explained by two words, “too late.” Too late in anticipating what needs to be done. Too late in coming up with a plan to do what needs to be done. And, too late in executing the plan to get things done.
When you are indifferent, more often than not you will be “too late.” Indifference will take your focus from everything matters to some things matter. To have continued success, realize that everything matters.
What is an error or does not work today will not make for a better tomorrow. Overcome the fear that underlies indifference. Be focused. Be timely. Set priorities, have a sense of urgency and act on them. When you do, indifference will melt away as your purposeful action leads you to success.

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Sharing Vulnerability-Building a Winning Culture

Here’s another look at sharing vulnerability to build on the previous post. A winning culture starts inside of you. Then, in your business and relationships you spread your beliefs about yourself, your world and most importantly how you care for others. Culture, in a business or in personal relationships, is defined by how you care for others.
One of the key components in building a winning culture with others is to create an atmosphere where you can share vulnerability. Sharing vulnerability is not easy for most people. If you share vulnerability you may say to someone, “I don’t know.” Or, “I need your help.” Another way to share vulnerability is to ask for someone’s opinion or expertise. You are not asking for direct help in this case. You want their opinion to help you gain clarity on something where you are stuck or confused.
But when you share your vulnerability is this truly sharing vulnerability. There is a subtle yet important difference. The answer when it comes to sharing vulnerability is that both parties have to show vulnerability.
I have the privilege of doing business coaching in The Woodlands and business coaching in Houston. I also have clients out of town that I collaborate with on the phone. Much of the progress in the coaching relationship comes when we, the client and I, share our vulnerabilities. If one person shares their vulnerability and the other person does not acknowledge it, then the vulnerability is not shared.
For example, much of what I do is personal development business coaching. I collaborate with and support people who are already successful. True support that is focused comes from identifying and sharing our vulnerabilities. Notice, I said sharing our vulnerabilities.
A recent example was with a client who was having a challenge hiring the right people for his business. He shared with me his frustration and we delved into the root cause. When he shared his vulnerability in hiring with me. I acknowledged it and, this is very important, I shared my vulnerability that I had when I hired people for a company I built that had eighty employees.
I was always hiring out of neediness, not need. In other words, I would let things go too long. Then when the decision had to be made to fire a person, something that I tried to avoid, I was left with no options. As a result, I would hire the first person that might fill the job. This was not a process that gave me good results. I shared this with my client.
The result of my sharing my vulnerability led us into a deeper discussion of where he was vulnerable. Psychologically, when you do this, sharing vulnerability, you build a bond and trust that is unique. With this bond and trust very positive things can happen when you collaborate with others.
When you are a leader or not, sharing vulnerability is a very good way to connect with others and to build the trust and cooperation necessary to create a good culture with other people. Obviously, it is not something you do in every situation. Yet, if you are stuck in a relationship try sharing your vulnerability. If the other person picks up on it then you can take the relationship and create a culture of caring and trust.

If you are looking for self-improvement tips for success, next time you are having a challenge, share your vulnerability. When you do, you will increase the odds of creating a better culture based on trust and cooperation.

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How to Have Your Best Year Yet- Part 1

When you come to the end of a calendar year, it is a wonderful time to reflect on our past year. What did you accomplish? What were our disappointments? What did you learn? These are a few questions that can get you started on reflecting and evaluating.

I have learned over the years in my personal business coaching in The Woodlands and surrounding areas, that this reflection is good to do annually, yet if you truly want to stay on track with your goals, it works even better to do a quarterly evaluation. If you are getting off track, you can more easily alter your course to refocus on your goals. If you get too far off, the difficulty and energy required to get back on track is much greater.

In a way, your life is like a football game. If you divide your year into quarters, you can see how you are doing at the end of each quarter and make the necessary adjustments to win, to achieve your goals. That’s what football coaches do.

At times, a large part of what I do when I collaborate with clients has to do with their personal development in their business. Yes, we find ways to improve processes, hire better people, streamline operations for efficiency, be more effective in our communication in the teams we have, create and execute a better marketing plan and the list can go on and on. To achieve these things, the client has to embrace the idea that self-improvement business coaching will accelerate the process of his or her successful performance.

Quite simply, you and your business will only rise to the level of your self-improvement, which in essence is your personal development. Fortunately, the clients in The Woodlands I have collaborated with over the years understand this. They understand that something has to change on the inside before it will manifest itself on the outside in attaining their goals both business and personal.

To start on your path to having your best year yet ask yourself these three questions as regards your business and life. Why look at your business and life? As a personal business coach in the Woodlands, or anywhere for that matter, I see that there is always a dynamic link between your personal and business life. If you achieve a goal on the personal side, it may have a great effect on the business side and vice versa. Once you have your answers to the following questions, write them down. Writing down your answers increases the odds of taking the necessary actions to have your best year yet. Here are:

1. What did I accomplish in the past year? Or what did I accomplish in the last 12 months? You can start having your best year yet at any time.

2. What were my major disappointments?

3. What did I learn?

Those three questions will get you started. In the next post I will give you three more questions to accelerate your process of having your best year yet!